


Wednesday, November 08, 2023
I remember a season of my life where it was so difficult to MAKE the time to connect with my children.
I remember understanding that it wasn’t the QUANTITY of time but instead the QUALITY of time…
I knew it wouldn’t take HOURS… it could be as simple as reading a short story with them or wrestling before bed but WHEW, I just didn’t have it in me.
There were lots of fires in the business, unread emails/messages, laundry was piled up to mountainous proportions, and don’t even get me started on the kitchen.
But I knew the most important thing was time with THEM…
Time spent finding out what makes their heart sing…
Listening to what is troubling their mind…
Unlocking their dreams and ideas that are begging to be shared…
And every time I MADE the time (because you do have to MAKE it… you won’t “find” it), I was always flabbergasted that I hesitated.
Those intentional moments shared, made the world of difference for BOTH of us.
This is what Blake Fly, a nine-time TEDx stage speaker, and I dove into during a heartwarming podcast where we unpacked the importance of connecting deeply with our loved ones, especially our children.
Blake, with his astounding accomplishments and the heartwarming mission of "THANK YOU LIVE," and I, explored the layers of connection that bind us, guide us, and sometimes, haunt us with their absence.
In this blog, we're going to pull back the curtain and delve deep into the art and heart of connecting with our kids—not just as a passing act of duty but as a rich, intentional practice of soulful parenting.

You don’t know what you've got 'til it's gone. #facts.
In the podcast I had with Blake, I shared my heart talking about saying goodbye to my dad at seven, my mom in my twenties, and a dear friend to the thief that is cancer. It's never an easy conversation, but it's real.
The biggest revelation I’ve had is that the pain of their absence is simply a testimony to how much they mattered in my life.
Unfortunately, most of the time we live life and don’t always walk in the deep appreciation that potential loss can bring.
When we lose someone, the background noise of life fades away, and the melodies of those relationships are left echoing in the halls of our hearts. We spend our days hustling and bustling, often speeding through moments and people – until one day, WE CAN’T.
Suddenly, a simple memory, like the smell of your dad's cologne, or the sound of your mom humming in the kitchen, can feel like a time machine.
So, what can we do?
We can start by being mindful of the magic in the mundane. Appreciate the chorus of laughter in a family dinner, the shared silence between friends, the stories told and retold at gatherings, and the sacred time spent with your kiddos.
WE CAN BE THERE.
FULLY.
WITH ALL OF OUR HEARTS.
Because these are the threads that weave the fabric of our connections.
And the thing is…we're all authors in this grand book called life.
We've got the chance, every single day, to write a line, a paragraph, an entire chapter in someone's life. Why wait for a eulogy to say the beautiful stuff? Let’s dish it out now!
Make it rain compliments like you've got a limitless bank account of kindness. Making memories stick isn't just about what we leave behind; it’s also about what we weave into our present.
Those memories, they're not just retrospective; they're alive, they're teaching us, guiding us, and reminding us to squeeze every last drop out of this life.

When was the last time you grabbed your kiddo in a bear hug and said, "You know what? I’m SO glad that I get to be your mom/dad!"?
Or when have you called your mom on a random Tuesday just to say, "Hey, I love you"?
We often save our appreciation for big occasions, like birthdays or graduations.
But why wait? Life’s not scripted, and neither should our expressions of love be.
In our podcast, Blake shared that every year, he throws an event called THANK YOU LIVE.
Was it a concert or a fancy award show? NOPE.
It's an annual gathering where he brings together folks from all walks of his life to hit the pause button on the chaos of life and just... appreciate the people in their lives.
You know what’s even more awesome? He vowed to do this for the next 55 years! #GOALS
If you want to join the gratitude train, there's no need to rent out a ballroom or even put on real pants (those cozy pajama bottoms will do just fine).
Why not start your own version of THANK YOU LIVE right at your kitchen table?
Grab some sticky notes, a pen that's seen better days (we all have one), and get to scribbling down those heart-felt shout-outs.
Plaster them on the fridge, hide them in a lunch box, or hey, go wild and stick them on the bathroom mirror.
Because nothing says "YOU’RE THE BEST" quite like a compliment next to the toothpaste splatters, right?
But hey, you can also join Blake himself in the actual, in-the-flesh THANK YOU LIVE if you're feeling a bit more adventurous.
We live in a paradoxical world.
We are, theoretically, more connected than ever.
Social media, smartphones, instant messaging—you name it. But at the same time, we’re also lonelier than ever. It’s as if we’re all crowded together on a huge platform, but everyone’s too busy staring at their screens to notice the person next to them.
Can you relate?
Imagine what it’s like for our kids.
They're growing up in a digital whirlwind where 'likes' are the currency of self-worth, and a ‘seen’ notification is the equivalent of acknowledgement.
In our conversation, Blake recalled an activity with teenagers who parted with their phones for 23 hours—a small eternity in the digital age. The result? A rediscovery of connection untethered from likes, shares, and perpetual scrolling.
Stepping away from screens and into the realm of face-to-face interaction can feel like a breath of fresh air.
It’s a great reminder that while technology is an incredible tool for maintaining connections, it's the human touch, the shared smiles, and the collective experiences that truly bind us.
And here's where the Aro Home device works its charm. If you're looking for the best tool to guide a digital detox, look no further. It’s a digital peacekeeper for the home. When your phone slips into the Aro Home's embrace, it's signing off from the constant dings and pings of the virtual world. It also records the time spent offline which encourage a healthier, more balanced tech diet.
With Aro Home, you can ensure that family dinners are illuminated by conversation, not screens. That game nights are filled with the sounds of laughter, not notifications. And that our kids learn the value of eye contact and the undiluted joy of living in the moment.

Remember when you’re seven years old, holding a clunky tape recorder, the kind that’s as heavy as a brick, and you’re trying to capture a moment—a laugh, a story, anything—with your dad?
Fast forward to today, and what have we got?
Smartphones that can record 4K videos, voice messages that can be sent across the globe in a nanosecond, and digital time capsules that can store memories for, well, virtually forever. Crazy, right?
I mean, think about it: we’ve gone from scratching pictures on cave walls to creating virtual reality spaces where we can hang out with people from the other side of the planet.
If you told that to someone a hundred years ago, they'd probably think you'd been reading too much. But here we are…
Now, let’s get real for a sec.
Ever miss someone so much it feels like your heart’s trying to text them, but, alas, hearts don’t have thumbs? I feel you. Losing my father at a young age left me with a deep longing for something, anything, to remember him by.
If only I had a video to replay his voice, or a letter to grasp the quirks of his handwriting.
But hey, we've got the next best thing now. We can leave behind a legacy, a digital footprint so vivid, it’s like we never left the room.
So, here are a few tips on how we can use this crazy powerful technology to bring us closer to our kids, or really, anyone we love:
Video Diaries: Think of it as a vlog, but it's just for your kiddos. Spill your thoughts, share advice, or just talk about your day. Years from now, they’ll hit play and it’ll be like you’re right there with them, sharing a laugh or offering a shoulder to lean on.
Email Time Capsules: Write an email for their future milestones. First heartbreak? There’s an email for that. Graduation day? Check your inbox! You get the idea. Set it up to be sent on a specific date, and voila, it’s like you’re speaking to them from across time.
Virtual Scrapbooks: Go beyond the dusty photo albums. Create a digital scrapbook with pictures, videos, even your Spotify playlists. Show them the soundtrack of your life! And when they flip through it, they'll get a technicolor tour of your world.
Online Gaming: Yeah, you heard that right. Play Minecraft or Fortnite with the little tykes. It’s bonding in their language and on their turf. Plus, who doesn’t like a bit of gaming?
Voice Notes: Quick and easy. Just finished reading a book and have some thoughts? Or maybe you just want to say ‘I love you’ out of the blue? Send a voice note. It’s personal, it’s intimate, and it’s something they can keep and replay whenever they need it.
Collaborative Playlists: Music is the language of the soul, right? Create playlists together or for each other. Each song can become a memory, an inside joke, or just a tune to dance to together, no matter where you are.
Let’s not forget the basics—regular video calls, texting, sharing memes (because who doesn’t love a good laugh?), and all that jazz.
The goal here is to make sure that no matter what, you’re just a click away.
So there you have it, folks.
Whether you’re tech-savvy or still figuring out how to switch on the selfie camera, there’s a way for you to deepen those ties that bind.
The most important thing? Just start.
Record that video, send that email, because there’s nothing more comforting than having a piece of someone you love, just a touch screen away.
Now, I want to hear from you.
What's your secret for creating memorable moments?
How do you use nostalgia to fuel connections in this digital age?
Drop your thoughts, your stories, your midnight epiphanies in the comments.
Let's turn this little corner of the internet into our cozy virtual parents’ meet-up.
Here's to making every connection count—while we can.
Also, don’t forget to tune in to our podcast today where Blake and I talked about the power of connection!
See you there! 💛
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